Change in dad’s role is more than social change


Published Mar 28, 2013 at 05:00AM / Updated Nov 19, 2013 at 12:31AM

I found your article, “For grandparents, much has changed,” interesting and informative. There are a few points I would like to add.

One quote says, “My son is way more involved in taking care of the kids than I was.” Statements like these are often chalked up simply to social changes. What is lost sometimes is that my father’s ability to be more involved was hampered by the fact that he was usually busting his rear at work and at home most of his wakeful hours for the betterment of his family, not just avoiding things dads didn’t do. My children reap the benefit of those efforts.

As a parent, my father probably changed one diaper, if that. As a grandparent, he has changed countless diapers.

While pregnant with our third child, my wife was put on bed rest for several months. At the time we had a 1-year-old and a very active 2-year-old. Without being asked, my dad (and mom) did the diaper changing, feeding, bathing, chasing and everything else, at all hours so my wife could rest and I could work. Thanks, Dad.

Eric McEldowney

Phoenix, Ariz.