I enjoyed very much the letter to the editor regarding Oregon’s “first lady.” Perhaps The Bulletin should have called her “first significant other.” In times gone by, any governor would have been run out of town and asked to resign, I would guess.
My, my, how times change. Of course, common-law laws must be taken into consideration here, if co-habitation has lasted 10 years without interruption. Legally that is an entirely different kettle of fish.
I’ve addressed this matter before in letters to the editor. They have almost always been directed at anyone in the political arena; simply because politicians are more prone to lying than denizens of any other public body as a whole. Tell the people what they want to hear, and then do whatever you think is good for them. The truth certainly has no home in the political arena.
Consider the following:
A man and a woman stand up in church, in front of the minister and the congregation and God, and both pledge to love, honor, etc. until death do they part. When asked, each says either “I will” or “I do,” thus giving their word — their word — that they will do as they just stated.
When divorce comes along, they forget all about that. Even after a divorce, a man or a woman will tell you “my word is my bond.” Really? They have lied to God, they have lied to the minister, and they lied to all their family and friends and children of the union, if there are children involved.
But the worst thing of all is the fact that they lied to themselves. That is what I cannot tolerate. If anyone who has ever been divorced told me, “my word is my bond,” I would tell them I wouldn’t trust you any farther than I could throw you. That goes for the governor of this state also. People who break their word and lie aren’t to be trusted. Look around and you will find the world full of them.
I’ve been married to the same woman for 55 years come Oct. 19. I told God, her and myself, and the minister, that I would, and so help me, I will. My word is my bond. I take a great deal of pride in giving people my word and greater pleasure in honoring it. It is called commitment. The people of this country, especially those in political office, need to learn about commitment.
There are those who will state, “I didn’t know him or her well enough to know all that before we were married.” That’s no excuse to the keeper of the book. He will say, “You should have known each other more thoroughly before you were married.” And then, I don’t think it is unreasonable to think he would ask, “Why did you lie?”
Don’t lie to anyone. The day is coming when you will come face to face with an individual who will slowly turn the pages of life and ask you, “What about this item here? Why did you do that? What do you have to say for yourself?”
Believe me when I say, it isn’t going to be “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas,” like the TV commercials state, because there are no missing pages in this book.