Are you a drama queen?

Published Jul 19, 2013 at 05:00AM / Updated Nov 19, 2013 at 12:31AM

How many times have you seen the words “no drama queens” in a man’s profile?

Have you ever wondered if that’s you?

The secret actually lies in these three questions you can ask yourself about dating:

• Have you taken enough time to heal from your last relationship?

One of the worst things you can do when a relationship ends is to start dating right away. You end up dragging the baggage from the old guy right on over to the new guy.

And you can end up talking and processing about your ex — the good, the bad and the ugly — for the entire date.

This is when a man starts thinking you’re a drama queen vs. a good catch.

When a relationship ends, take some time to heal before you date. Do this by pampering yourself while grieving and processing the old relationship.

Go out with friends, get a manicure and/or pedicure, go to a new restaurant you’ve wanted to try or take a fun class.

Buy a pretty journal and write your thoughts in it. I love journaling and have done it daily for years. You’ll find if you consistently write, you can discover a lot about yourself and the men you date.

This phase can feel really hard as you get used to being by yourself again, but it’s a great time for getting to know the real you that’s probably been hidden for a while.

Loving yourself totally and completely again sends vibes into the world of a happy, confident and openhearted woman.

This is the woman men are looking to share their life with.

• Is your dating confidence a negative five or a nine?

Ending a relationship can be brutal.

Ex’s can say things that make you doubt yourself and cause you to forget just how AWESOME you really are.

Make a list of your best qualities and what it is you bring to the dating table. Once you feel your inner glow coming back, head out and do some fun outer updating.

Try a new lip color, add some highlights to your hair or buy a beautiful sweater that’s going to bring out the sensual, vibrant woman you are inside.

Have fun finding things that make you feel good about you.

When you feel good, you’ll get your dating mojo back a lot quicker, and it’s this mojo from your inner and outer glow that men are so unbelievably attracted to in you.

• Are you ready to flirt and have fun dating?

How long has it been since you flirted?

Probably quite a while, but it’s the best tool you have for getting great guys, whether in real life or online, to notice you.

And it means getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Flirting again over 50 can feel strange.

But it’s your main signal for letting a guy know you’re interested in him, so get out there and start talking and laughing with every man around you whether or not you are interested in them and whether or not you know they are single.

It’s great practice!